It is not a light effort but it demands an energetic soul and a great mind to bear separation from one whom we love in the charity of Christ. (St. John Chrysostom)
My mother’s first book, Tears – Healing After 18 Years of Grieving, is up on Amazon. In the book, my mother (Gloria) writes about how through various challenges, hardships, and painful events and the associated grieving she has been healed by a simple surrender to the Lord and been given and increase in the gift of faith. Although written mostly for the Christian woman, by a Christian woman, it will touch the heart of any reader. You can order yours here. It is also available at Salem’s Storehouse in Ottawa. [This is a repost from almost a year ago]
Fr. Thomas Hopko, Dean Emeritus of St. Vladimir’s Orthodox Seminary in Crestwood, New York, presented the first plenary address, “Christian Doctrine in an Age of Relativism,” at the 2008 Metropolitan Andrey Sheptytsky Institute of Eastern Christian Studies Study Days in Ottawa, Ontario. He prefaced his presentation with a caution to those who wish to delve into theological questions by means of a twelve-point list which emphasized things such as the necessary desire and willingness to endure struggle in coming to know Jesus Christ.
- There has to be a desire to know and the person has to be willing to pay the cost, make the sacrifice. It doesn’t just happen. We are made in the image and likeness of God. We are free and it is a battle, something very difficult. The desire is everything – Scripture says – is the person is thirsting and hungry for righteousness? They will find it. Theology is not written in ink, but in blood. It is not studied but suffered and only through many afflictions that one comes to the knowledge of the Truth.
- There has to be hungering and thirsting – and that is called prayer. If a person doubts that God exists, there still has to be prayer – “To whom it may concern… I want to know who you are as you are not a creation of my mind, etc.”
- Be constantly reading the New Testament – not the Fathers, the Canons, the Typikon, etc. – the Word of God!!!! Read the New testament at least three times – what you do not understand let it go, what you do understand, put it into practice.
- Go to Church. Stand there, stand there and listen to the services. If you are having trouble with the faith, just stand there. Do nothing else. Even if you must vomit, then go outside and do so and return and continue to stand there and let the word of God lacerate you. Do not pay attention to anyone else; let the Word of God penetrate you, go through you.
- Do not lie. Do not harm anyone. Be kind and good to everyone you meet without exception, especially those with whom you live. Do some good works, at least an hour or two each week without anyone helping you. Extra money, give it away.
- No sex at all (unless you are married)! If you fall into it, stand and say, “God be merciful to me a sinner,” and continue on.
- Do not get drunk. Eat well. Fast a couple days a week. Abstain and Fast.
- Sit in silence at least 15 minutes a day, not worrying about your own troubles, or theologizing, etc. Try not to think, but let the thoughts go by, and as you watch them come, you turn them over to God. Learn to be quiet. We learn from the saints, If you cannot practice silence, you must never ever speak because you will have nothing to say. St Ambrose of Milan in his book on the priesthood writes his first chapter on silence. As you turn your thoughts to God, ask – God if you are there, help me, show me what to do. As simple and silent as possible.
- Speak as little as possible. You do not discuss theology with others, and do not irritate others by your silence. You learn to listen to others; be attentive; do not argue.
- Find someone you fully trust. Doesn’t have to be a clairvoyant monk of Mt Athos or a therapeutically licensed person – share with that person in confidence everything. You do not speak in detail of sexual stuff, or in detail of other people. Must detail your family of origin, and beg God to see it clearly, admit it, and accept it. Many people try to demonize or idolize family members. There is an objective truth (F,S, HS, etc.) but there is a truth of my personal existential existence, etc. Why do I do the things I do, think the things I do, etc.?
- Do a check for any addictions in your life: drugs, alcohol, food, sex, religion, culture, etc. Every person has some sort of addiction/compulsions, etc. Get help when you need it without fear, or shame. Everybody needs help. Everybody needs other people. The only thing you can do alone is go to Hell (Russian proverb).
- Do your work, whatever it is, to the best of your ability, one minute at a time. Let the past go, do not be anxious about tomorrow, live in the present moment. Whatever you are doing, do it for the glory of God. We do not move capriciously – we all according to the testimony of Scripture.